When people talk about swinging, they usually focus only on sex. Too often, people don’t realize that there is so much more to the lifestyle. It can unlock some great benefits that will make both your swinging and vanilla worlds much more enjoyable.
Swinging can help us grow individually and improve our emotional relationship with our special someone. Let’s dive in and explore some of the many great benefits you can enjoy from swinging besides the obvious sexy fun.
Close Friendships – Frenemies often fill our local neighborhoods. The people in our daily lives that we publicly smile at but secretly cringe when they show up. These fake friends are often judgmental and filled with negativity. The lifestyle brings together people that complement & build up each other. It is a close collaboration of non-jealous people. It is hard not to be happy while enjoying the sweeter & more sensual side of life. Sharing this experience leads to actual friendships with others who care about you, your relationship, and your feelings. You may start swinging for the sex, but many swingers stay when they discover the surprisingly robust & supportive connections.
Reverse Aging – It is too easy to fall into the “growing old” routine as we slog our way through the vanilla world. Physical attraction is essential in the swinging lifestyle & it provides significant incentives to be our best outward self. When we enter the swinging lifestyle, we find a new motivation to live a healthier lifestyle. Working together with your partner and being surrounded by an encouraging community helps keep us feeling young and full of vitality. Those bedroom activities are a great cardio workout and much more enjoyable than any treadmill workout I’ve ever tried.
Increased Energy – As swingers do their best to turn back the hands on the clock, we obviously will feel more energy as we take better care of our bodies. We also will experience “New Relationship Energy.” NRE is that spark you feel when you meet a new partner. Remember when you first started dating your primary partner? You probably felt like you were floating on cloud nine. Even if you have met your forever life partner, you can still enjoy that NRE by swinging with new couples. Better yet, you can share it with your life partner and bask in the afterglow together. This new spark of energy carries over, making even your vanilla world more enjoyable to you.
Improved Communication – Opening up your relationship to swinging can be very scary. Thankfully there is a very enticing reward of sexy fun to incentivize communication between partners. None of us want drama in our relationship, so we talk, talk, and talk some more to make sure we are prepared. We roleplay different scenarios. We plan secret signals or codes to better signal with each other in crowded settings. Then when we finally have a play session, we get to debrief about the good, bad, and unexpected. Reliving the thrill leads to more excitement and more incentive to keep communicating. The more we communicate, the better we become at doing it, making the more challenging topics in life easier to discuss.
Tighter Bond – We already love our special someone, but the swinging lifestyle can help couples become even closer. The improved communication helps with this and also being able to be truly honest. Swingers don’t need to lie about what turns them on or off. They can be genuinely open with their partners. Many swingers finally feel comfortable enough to explore their bi-curious side. Opening up your relationship allows deeper appreciation for how much your partner truly loves you and supports you. Experiencing compersion for the first time is exhilarating and grows your loving connection and trust.
Mental Health Recharge – The vanilla world can be filled with people who thrive on petty competition and tearing each other down with gossip. The swinging lifestyle is a tight-knit community that tends to go out of its way to help each other. It is smaller, which fosters people to be supportive of each other. Frankly, if you are very insecure or jealous, you are unlikely to be interested in the lifestyle. So the swinging community is a natural selection process of more supportive people. Being in a supportive environment helps you relax and recharge your mental self, unlike some vanilla settings where you always need to keep your guard up.
Self Acceptance – We all have flaws. Unfortunately, too many of our parents and peers taught us to focus only on those flaws, leading us often to be our own harshest critics. The swinging lifestyle is a very accepting place that tends to celebrate the natural variety in life. We learn to accept our flaws and love ourselves. It helps to go to a swinger party where people constantly give genuine compliments to each other. We will never be an airbrushed supermodel, but we can be happy with ourselves and realize there is so much more to be grateful for in our very fortunate lives.
Boost Your Confidence – Knowing that other people genuinely desire you and your partner is a massive boost to your confidence. People aren’t complimenting you to be polite but because they 100% find you hot and want to spend time with you. It is affirming to hear all those sweet compliments your partner gives you echoed by many other people. There is also something very satisfying about taking a chance on something as big as swinging and discovering that the experience exceeded your expectations. This reinforcement can trigger having more faith in making other bold moves. Swinging can help you understand and remember that there is great beauty in our differences. It doesn’t matter if you are a ruby, sapphire, or emerald – we all sparkle in our unique way.
Spark Your Creativity – Life can become tedious. Step out of line & society can be quick to discipline or shun you. The swinging lifestyle embraces creativity and self-expression. There are always different party themes that practically dare you to dress up in wild costumes that you could never wear in public. You can experiment with different fetishes, roleplay, or other experiences till you find what you enjoy the most (and then try them all over again!). Swingers love variety, and it offers a liberating oasis of freedom for your creative side. Give yourself permission to explore the wide-ranging possibilities in this sexy lifestyle.
Gain Understanding Towards Others – Swinging exposes us to a wide assortment of people and experiences we would likely never have encountered in our vanilla world. This community provides a safe & open place for discovering more about different ethnicities/races, sexual identities, and fetishes. And because many swingers love to travel, you can meet people from all over the world. This broad exposure helps us understand people who might not be just like us and become more comfortable in new situations that might lead us to unchartered territory.
Reduced Stress & Anxiety – Swinging creates a healthy outlet for you to explore & enjoy yourself. Having an outlet reduces your stress level, making it easier to deal with the frustrations that might pop up in your vanilla life. Work and family have us all stressed out. Swinging provides an escape where we can open up a relief valve to that stress. Disconnect from those draining experiences and refill ourselves with pleasure and pride.
Deeper Trust – Swinging is a team sport. Seeing your partner have fun with others & constantly come back to you is a great way to be reassured and trust that you are always their #1 choice. Even when they can experience so many amazing things in the lifestyle, our partners still choose us at the end of the night. Open communication further helps to deepen trust. Discussing how we feel in vulnerable situations creates more opportunities for our partners to remind us that they always support us no matter what happens.
Enhanced Listening & Observation – Swinging puts us all back into the dating game, where we need to pay attention to the little nuanced messages we receive from other people. Active listening helps us spot red flags that another person might be a bad match for us. On a happier note, it also helps us flirt and respond to the sexy people we want to attract. These observation skills have benefits that spill over into our vanilla world. Being better able to listen and respond to the people we meet in our everyday lives is yet another unexpected benefit of swinging.
Self-Awareness – As we explore non-monogamy, we uncover many new concepts, situations, and feelings. The newness leads many swingers to think deeply about their feelings, needs, expectations, and actions. There is plenty of reflecting that goes on as we try to process it all. When we pay attention to who we are drawn to, the settings we prefer, the situations we avoid, and how people respond to us, we understand what drives us and how we impact others.
Crush Fear – The swinging lifestyle will bring up many first-time experiences, and they can be scary. With your partner, you can navigate these challenges starting with the smaller ones and building up to bigger ones. There are countless opportunities to tackle the fear and doubt that try to hold you back from enjoying your best life. The lifestyle is an excellent reminder that we are stronger and better than we give ourselves credit for being.
Re-Invigorate Intimacy – Yes, swinging can supercharge our sex lives, but more importantly, it can replenish that special connection with our partner. All of the extra communication & working together to navigate the swinging lifestyle can bring couples even closer together physically and emotionally. The passion in your relationship can reach new heights as you experience the variety in the lifestyle and confirm that no one else can come close to the particular desire you feel for each other.