The phrase “gangbang” has a complicated reputation. Originally, the phrase was a negative one, but in the swinging lifestyle, it can have a very positive connotation. For swingers and other non-monogamous people, a gangbang is when one person is at the center of a group sex scenario being pleasured by everyone else.
Still, most people’s perceptions of a gangbang come from male-centric porn. Let’s be honest, like most pornographic scenarios, gangbangs in porn can get pretty unrealistic.
Of course, the desire to be at the center of a group sex situation has its appeal. There’s nothing quite like the thought of being wanted by more than one person. Just imagine it. You’re in bed with multiple people, all of them focused on pleasuring you. You are the center of attention, and everyone has their own favorite way to give and get pleasure. While one goes down on you, others kiss the back of your neck, play with your nipples, or take you from behind. If a threesome is fun, a foursome or fivesome has to be even better.
It’s no surprise that a gangbang scenario is a common fantasy among both women and men. But what is a gangbang really like in real life? Do they even happen or are they strictly confined to the realms of fantasy?
Are Gangbangs Real?
In the swinging lifestyle, gangbangs are very real and just as varied as any other type of sex. Some GBs organized ahead of time, while others are more spontaneous. They can take place privately at someone’s home or in a social setting like a swingers club and can include a variety of kinks and fetishes.
Technically, a gangbang is defined as a sexual encounter with multiple men focused on one woman, while a reverse gangbang has multiple women focused on one man. But gay gangbangs and multi-gender gangbangs also exist.
Why Participate in a Gangbang?
It is well known that a gangbang is unlike any other sexual encounter. There are some experiences you can only get by participating in a gangbang, especially if you are lucky enough to be the central participant. Gangbangs also share some benefits with orgies or other group sex events. If you’re considering participating in a gangbang, these benefits just might convince you to give it a try.
You Get to Be the Center of Attention During a Group Sex Event
Unlike orgies, where most participants are involved with more than one person, a gangbang allows one person to be the complete center of attention. Everyone involved is there to give that person pleasure or receive pleasure from them. If you’ve ever wanted to have multiple people giving you sexual pleasure at the same time, and enjoy the swinging lifestyle, a gangbang might just be the type of group sex you’re looking for.
You Get to Revel in Your Reverse Harem Fantasy
Lately, reverse harems have been a common theme in erotic fiction. Many novels, Kindle Vellas, fan-fics, and erotic series have been devoted to the idea of one woman being sexually served by multiple men, all of them hoping to give her pleasure. It’s no surprise that this fiction is incredibly common with women. If reverse harem stories are your thing, a gangbang could let you live out your erotica-fueled fantasies.
Opportunity to Experience True Double Penetration
While gangbangs share this benefit with some threesomes, you are much more likely to be able to experience double penetration when there are more than two men involved. If you’re down with a little fellatio, you could even experience triple penetration. The options are endless.
Try a Variety of Positions
Sometimes your ability to perform certain sexual positions during one-on-one sex can be limited. But during a gangbang, you’ve got extra bodies there to give you a hand or a little extra stability, allowing you to have sex in positions you’d only dreamed of.
Gangbangs are Perfect for Exhibitionists
If you love being watched during sex, your exhibitionist side will love gangbangs. Want to make them all wait and watch while you touch yourself? Go for it. Then let them try to do it better. You may know your body better than anyone, but it never hurts to try, and sometimes an extra hand or two can be useful. You can also have the men take turns with you while the others watch. It’s your gangbang. Why not make it your ultimate exhibitionist fantasy.
Voyeurs Can Enjoy Gangbangs Too
There’s plenty to watch during a gangbang. Whether you’re the central participant or one of the bangers, you have the opportunity to watch more than one person perform sexually. If you’re at the center of the gangbang, you can ask one or more of the bangers to touch themselves while you watch. If you’re a banger, you can watch the central participant interact sexually with the other bangers.
You Don’t Have to Worry about Stamina
Sometimes, sex can be disappointing for women. Maybe the man you’re with can’t get it up or keep it up long enough to bring you to orgasm. Maybe he comes too soon and you’re left waiting for round two. With a gangbang, you don’t have that problem. You have multiple men ready and waiting to give you what you want. If one of them can’t perform, for whatever reason, he can take a moment before trying again while you enjoy the other participants.
For men in a reverse gangbang, you don’t have to worry about the woman getting tired or sore. If you’ve got the stamina to go for hours, you will have multiple participants waiting and willing. This is also true for gay and lesbian gangbangs.
The Fun Tends to Last a While
Because planning for a gangbang takes some time, people usually want to get the most out of the event. Often, the people in a gangbang make a night of it, giving themselves plenty of time to do as many sexual activities as they want. This means more time for foreplay, sex, vouyerism, exhibitionism, role play, fetishes, kinks, or whatever you’re into.
Can Enjoy Multiple Orgasms
With all of this sexual fun, the chance of having multiple orgasms is high, even if you’re not the central participant. Throughout the gangbang, you will likely take part in multiple sex acts, whether it’s touching yourself while watching others perform or being part of the action. During a gangbang, multiple types of foreplay and different positions are tried, giving all participants multiple opportunities to orgasm.
Live Out Your Fantasy
If you’re into BDSM or another kink, a gangbang could give you the chance to see your fantasy come to life in a big way. Want to have multiple people submit to your will while you dominate them? A gangbang is a perfect opportunity to make that dream a reality. This also works if you’re a submissive who wants to submit to multiple masters.
You can also use a gangbang to play out scenarios from your favorite pornographic videos or stories. Just find a few willing partners, have a movie night, and then give it a try.
It’s All About Sex and Pleasure
Sex with someone you’re dating is great, but there’s nothing quite like a night of sex with multiple partners with no emotional concerns or relationship baggage. During a gangbang, the focus is on one thing and one thing only, and if you’re the central participant, that one thing is you. If you’re one of the bangers, you get to enjoy casual sex with someone you might not have had the opportunity to be intimate with.
Gangbangs Allow You to Have Sex with Someone New
In the swinging lifestyle, there are lots of opportunities to have sex with someone new. Gangbangs give you that opportunity while creating a safe space for you to test the waters for a potentially sexual relationship. Because most gangbangs are monitored, and other members are present, you can feel more at ease about having sex with someone new. And since gangbangs are strictly about sex, you don’t have to worry about the other person developing romantic expectations. While this is usually a non-issue in the swinging lifestyle, it can simply feel more comfortable for your first time with another swinger to be during a multiple-partner event.
You Get to Try Things Your Primary Partner Might Not Be Into
One of the best things about the swinging lifestyle is the ability to participate in activities that your spouse or primary partner might not want to do. Does your primary partner not like performing oral sex? Surely, one of the bangers will be into it. Have you always wanted to try anal sex or double penetration, but your partner doesn’t get excited by the idea? Try it during a gangbang.
You Get to Experience Everyone’s Best Skills
Most people have a few things they’re good at sexually and often one thing that they’re very good at. During monogamous sex, you get to experience the best of one person. But with a gangbang, you get to experience the very best that multiple people have to offer, and you just might get to experience multiple people’s best sex skills all at the same time.
Gangbangs Teach You More About Your Own Desires
One of the best things about gangbangs is their ability to surprise you. Even when you have a pretty good idea of what you like and what turns you on, you can still learn more about your own sexual desires. With a gangbang, you have multiple people bringing their skills, proclivities, and methods of doing things into play. You might learn that you like your body to be touched a certain way or that a position you’ve never tried is now your absolute favorite. By opening yourself up to multiple partners, you allow yourself to learn more about your own pleasure.
Should You Participate in a Gangbang?
There are a lot of reasons to participate in a gangbang, but ultimately, it comes down to your own comfort level, desires, and personal boundaries. Pay attention to how you feel when watching porn featuring gangbangs or when reading about gangbangs in erotic fiction. Is the reverse harem your favorite erotica trope? Do you fantasize about being part of a gangbang? Did reading this article make you more interested in gangbangs than ever? If so, you might want to look into making it a reality. Why not strike up a conversation about it with your local swingers’ group and see where to go from there?
If you’re uncertain, there are ways to get a little more experience with gangbangs without having to be part of one. You can ask around in your swinging group to see if anyone hosting a gangbang would be willing to let you sit in and watch. You can also find gangbangs in public spaces like swingers’ clubs that are open to observers. If a full gangbang feels a bit too intense for you, you can participate in a threesome where you are the center of attention.
Whether you’re totally ready to give it a try or still considering the idea of a gangbang, it is completely possible to enjoy a safe, fun, complication-free gangbang scenario that will be unlike anything you’ve ever experienced. When you’re ready, talk to a more experienced swinger for advice. They may be able to help you find a gangbang being organized or assist you in screening candidates for your own gangbang. Just remember to stay safe, use protection, have a moderator or overseer if you need one, and above all, enjoy yourself. A gangbang is an experience that you will never forget.