When it comes to swingers events, we all want to feel on top of our game – confident, sexy, and ready for the best night. Whether you comfortably identify as a BBW (a big, beautiful woman) – or have a sneaking suspicion that you fall into that category but find the actual words a bit corny, nothing needs to hold you back.
If you lack body positivity, trust us – you’re beautiful. We are all 10s! We might not be everyone’s favorite cup of coffee or shot of tequila, but we are all 10s! Here are some tips to help you feel it before your first swingers’ party.
Read The Dress Code
This is the best place to start – you don’t want to spend lots of time picking out the nicest outfit to wear when the venue’s rules state it’s underwear and towels only. Once you’ve reviewed the dress code, you can start planning an outfit around these guidelines.
Dress codes are common at swingers clubs, and they usually include themed parties that might specify fancy dress, for example, burlesque or uniforms, superhero costumes, or lingerie nights. Make sure to look up the party theme so you can incorporate it into your wardrobe choices.
Embracing the theme (especially if it is a creative interpretation) will make it easier for you to make connections at the swinger event. A great theme outfit will draw attention & pull people over to you. Let your creative juices flow! Show off your plus-size awesomeness.
Scroll Through Photos Of Yourself
One of the best ways to work out what clothes you like on yourself is to look at your camera roll on your phone. Specifically, look for full-body photographs wearing clothes that make you feel sexy. Are there any clubbing dresses you look particularly great in? Or perhaps a hot-looking outfit you recently wore to a wedding?
You can use these photos to base your outfit. Look for the body’s features you love the most – maybe you have killer legs or an amazing bum. When you’re choosing your clothes for a big swingers party or your first time meeting swingers, bear this in mind and pick something that will accentuate your best curves.
Ask Your Friends
Your friends can offer great advice about what to wear (even if you’re not telling them it’s for a swingers event). When you look in the mirror, you will see your own flaws magnified, but when your friends look at you, they see the best of you. They will know exactly what suits your body type and what expresses your personality the most.
They can also stop you from getting carried away and making sartorial mistakes, especially if you’re trying out a new look or trying to match the evening’s adventurous theme.
Remember, it might be tempting to show off your body at a swingers’ party, but it’s also important to show people who you are. There is no point squeezing yourself into a floral bodycon dress and stilettos if you’re more of a skater dress and boots kind of lady.
Wear Layers
The best piece of advice anyone can have about what to wear to a swingers event is to wear layers. This might be underwear, followed by a revealing vest top and a shirt. Wearing layers means you can reveal as much or as little as you want, leaving you in more control and free to expose more as the evening progresses.
Not only will you feel more confident flirting with swingers because you are in control of what other people can see, but taking layers of clothes off adds to the fun, helps signal the change in mood, and you can even make it a bit flirty.
Also, at the risk of sounding like your parents, a few layers can help you stay warm or cool, depending on the surroundings. If you’re going from being naked in a steamy hot tub to taking a breath of fresh air on the patio in the dead of winter, you’re going to want to throw a few layers.
Later on, after things have gotten a bit hot and heavy, you might want to chill out in your shawl or jacket rather than reconstruct your showstopping knock-’em-dead party outfit.
Comfort Is Key
Sexy corsets and basques look great on everyone, but they can be really uncomfortable and restrict movement. Consider if you want to wear something like this for an entire night. It might kill the mood if you don’t feel comfortable. If you decide your hard-boned corsets are too much, you could think about buying something with soft bones or wearing a corset-styled top instead.
Again, if you’ve got layers to play with, you can always discard the corset when you’ve made an impression and keep it casual. You can change to a simple camisole or a sexy bra & panty set or whatever else you feel like wearing at the moment (or not wearing at the moment). You could grab a towel and turn it into your next sexy outfit!
Plus-Sized Lingerie
If you would like to wear sexy lingerie for swinging, don’t settle for something just because it fits. Try and shop around online rather than trusting the local store with limited options. There are some amazing designers producing smoking-hot plus-sized lingerie. You have to know where to find them.
Communities on dating websites and online groups for BBW swingers can help you make friends on the scene who can give you recommendations. Also, check out some plus-sized fetish models on Instagram for inspiration, as they usually namecheck the brands they’re wearing. We find many sexy BBW lingerie options on these lifestyle-friendly sites.
Ami Clubwear
It is our personal favorite and the first site we shop at with a dedicated plus-size section. It is a good spot for party dresses, club dresses, and just about any sexy dress you can imagine. They carry a wide selection of shoes to match just about any swinger outfit. Ami also carries a wide selection of sexy costumes so that you can match any swinger party theme. They have sexy, intimate lingerie, so you can keep looking sexy after you take your dress off.
Try Your Outfit Before You Go
This is particularly important if it is something you have bought especially for the event, but make sure you wear your outfit at least once before the party. You don’t want to find out halfway through the evening that there is a very uncomfortable zip digging into your side or it is too tight for you to move properly. It’s also easy to overlook labels, stitched pockets, or other fresh-from-the-store marks. Putting it on and giving it a whirl should quickly expose any awkward price tags and the like.
If you’re going super fancy, definitely make sure you break in your shoes. Treat it as if you’ve been invited to a wedding or another formal event that demands a lot of prep for your look. Just because it’s all so super sexy and exciting doesn’t mean blisters will magically leave you alone.
You are a sexy woman and want your swinger wardrobe to match that hotness. Thankfully there are plenty of smoking-hot options to satisfy every plus-sized lady’s taste. Whether you want a sexy dress, lingerie, costume, or jeans – it’s all available for you!