Swingers love variety, but sometimes we can’t make it to the swinger club or attend the latest house party. We might even be having some issues with intimacy in our own relationship. We’re here to remind everyone they can have a super sexy time just about any time.
We have put together 30 days (and nights!) of sex ideas to remind you of all the different and fresh ways you can enjoy yourself, your partner, and your swinger friends.
- Massage – Pick up some nice massage cream as baby oil can stain the sheets. Let your fingers glide and explore all over the sexy body on the table. Take your time to massage everything from head to toe. Tease their naughty areas but keep it just a tease to build up the excitement.
Nuru Massage – Nuru gel is made from seaweed extract. It is super slippery (yes, more slippery than you are imagining). You can pour it over your skin and then glide over each other with zero friction; enjoy the naughty heat building up as you both experience a true full-body massage.- Whipped Cream Body Licking – Go ahead and play with your food. Cover your favorite naughty body parts with whipped cream, chocolate syrup, honey, or whatever else you like. First, put down a towel for easy clean-up. Ladies, keep the sugar outside of your naughty bits to avoid pH issues later.
- Shower Fun – When was the last time you enjoyed a steamy shower session together? Take your sweet time to soap and scrub each other. Remember to share the hot water to keep everyone happy or switch to a bubble bath.
Altoid Candy Oral Fun – You know that peppermint gives your mouth a cooling sensation. Well, your naughty bits are even more sensitive than your mouth, so … The next time you have some oral fun, pop an Altoid candy into your mouth (peppermint or cinnamon candies both work well) to give your partner a surprise feeling down below.- Roleplay – If you are new to roleplay or are unsure what to do, check out Literotica or another sexy website. Find a story that you like and then re-enact it. Frankly, you could do 30 days of roleplaying with all of the different themes/costumes like student/teacher, police/prisoner, boss/worker, maid/butler, doctor/patient, first-timers, royalty, spymasters, adult escort, ageplay, personal trainer, sci-fi, vampires, and so many more choices.
- Reading Erotica – Don’t stress with new & hot ideas. There are so many talented writers of erotica who have already done that for you. Check out Literotica, which has over a million pages of erotica in all different categories. When you find a story that really pushes your buttons, go and share it with your partner.
- Backdoor Play on Her – There are many ways she can comfortably enjoy some backdoor fun. If she isn’t ready for the full monty, you can still try experimenting with kisses, fingers, sex toys, and of course, plenty of sex lube. If it is your first time, go super slow and small to ensure everyone stays in the feel-good zone.
Backdoor Play on Him – Many men say they are uncomfortable with the idea of enjoying backdoor fun. But biology says that all those bundled nerve endings shouldn’t just go to waste. Try starting with some outside finger play during oral, then progress to whatever feels comfortable. There are even specially designed sex toys for backdoor play on men that are simply amazing.- Kissing Only – Want to shake up your routine? Let’s see you get each other off just by kissing! You can kiss anywhere & anyway, but only kissing and no touching. Be creative with the different body parts you are kissing. Kiss all different ways using your tongue, lips, and maybe even a naughty nibble from the teeth.
- Speed Play – Quickies Only – Challenge yourselves to see how you handle some speed challenges. Can you squeeze in a quickie when your favorite TV show goes on a commercial break? Or how about ordering food delivery and trying to finish before it arrives? Be creative and pick whatever scenario is best for you.
- Cock Ring – These toys can add a bit of spice to your sex life by potentially boosting your erection and delaying the big finish. You can earn bonus points wearing a vibrating one to make it even more interesting for both of you. If you are experienced with cock rings, consider the weighted ones for even more sensation.
Bondage Tape – This roll of plastic is often mistaken for duct tape, but wow, is it so much more fun. Bondage tape sticks to itself without any adhesive, so no worries about pulling out your hair or leaving a gross glue residue. You can use it to secure body parts together, making it easier to hold certain sex positions, or you can obviously use it for some bondage play. Great for water play or even shibari-style play.- Shibari Rope Play – Speaking of Shibari, this erotic Japanese rope play can be quite interesting. Some people (aka rope bunnies) love to be secured by beautiful knots & rope designs. Others love creating them, enjoying a feeling of zen-like eroticism. Make sure to buy the right type of rope, have safety scissors, and practice before doing it for real. If you want to be really advanced, you can look into the Shibari suspension positions.
- Blindfolds – A bit of sensory deprivation can really turn on your senses or give a big boost to some roleplay scenarios. Invest in a good quality blindfold to have the proper effect. Then take your time. Make them wonder what is happening, where you are, & what you are going to do next. Which of their body parts is going to feel something next? Are you going to lick, touch, or even drip wax on them? You can be as creative as you like.
Wartenberg Wheel – The spiky pinwheel is a great introduction to BDSM sensations. Lightly run it across the skin for more of a massage feel, then slowly apply a bit more pressure to move more towards a spiky and exciting sensation.- Wax Play – This can be a fun way to dabble into some BDSM fun and even make a bit of sexy body art as the wax cools on their skin. Make sure you use the candles designed for this, aka low-temperature soy candles (beeswax can burn skin). Put down a sheet to make it easier to clean up and move away from anything flammable. Start by dripping at a higher height and slowly move closer till you find the right amount of sensation that they can handle. Avoid hairy areas unless they want an unscheduled bikini wax.
- Try Tantric – Let’s see how long you both can last. Focus less on the jackhammer style & a more zen-like rhythm that you both can sustain. If you aren’t familiar with tantric, do some research on Google to figure out the best positions & atmosphere that will work for you. There are even some breathing tips that can help.
- Toy Threesome – Bring in a third to your bedroom romp with a sex toy. It can be a butt plug so you can experience a double penetration scenario, or it can be a toy with vibrating attachments to add another source of sensation or whatever toy you want to bring into your bedroom fun.
Pillow Talk – Buy some of those sex pillows to help you comfortably achieve those crazy sex positions. To save money, search for “orthopedic wedge pillows.” They are basically the same thing as those sex pillows but cost much less. If you don’t like the foam wedges, you could try a foam bean bag that you can mold into whatever shape you want.- Party Like a Rock Star – Grab some cheap champagne bottles and spray each other down with them. It is super fun & those champagne bubbles will lightly tickle your skin. Some tips – don’t chill it, or it will feel too cold on the skin, do it in the shower for easy clean-up, or put down a plastic sheet and go crazy.
- Mirror, Mirror on the Wall – Surround your bed with mirrors so you both can view the hot scene no matter what position you are in. Looking into your partner’s eyes and seeing them in the throes of passion can drive both of you to new heights.
Porn Shoot – Embrace your inner starlet and make your own hot porno. Set up real lighting. Put together some costumes and relive your favorite storyline. Make sure you have a good microphone to capture the sexy sounds. Then after your filming session, you can edit it all together and have a permanent reminder of your sexiness.- Virtual Sex with Another Couple – The one good things about 2020 is that it made virtual cam shows easy to set up. This is a great way to engage with other people, especially in a rural area without many options. You can even find virtual swingers friends from different countries to protect your identity.
- Masturbation – We have all done it, but have you done it with your partner? It can be quite a show for them to watch. You can also learn how they do it to themselves and pick up some tips. If you want to be actively involved, you can pull in some remote-controlled aids.
Cam Shows – Want to be paid for having sex? Do a cam show! This is great, especially if you enjoy the thrill of an audience watching you. Don’t worry. You can wear a mask to keep your secret as you can have anywhere from 10 to 1000 people watching and tipping your performance.- Magic Wand Male Attachment – Sex toys aren’t just for the ladies. They have sleeve attachments for the magic wand to pleasure the men. This could be a good time to bring back the bondage tape so the man can’t escape from the high-powered magic wand.
- Special Sensation Lubes – You probably know they have countless lube flavors, but you might not know that there are also many lubes that give special feelings. They have ones that heat up, others give an icy chill, & others give tingling sensations. Go experiment and add these extra sensations to your routine.
Sex Swing – These amazing creations let you easily achieve some crazy positions and help you enjoy your fun even longer. They are available with temporary stands, or you can install them on your ceiling & hide the ceiling hook with a fake smoke detector when not in use (they think of everything).- Nipple Clamps – These are a great toy for her or him or both. If you have never played with them, go easy and remember it can feel more intense after being removed. If you are experienced with nipple clamps, then try the heavier ones or the vibrating ones.
Ready? I think you can take it from here! Let your imagination run wild 🙂